Listen.. no one knows what dating all the wrong guys is like better than me. I spent all of my 20s and most of my 30s dating men who wanted me, but didn’t necessarily deserve me. Literally, for almost 2 decades the only prerequisite to date me, was to like me, that’s it! Can you imagine the bar being that low?! Nevermind what I wanted or liked … But something deep inside me knew I deserved more. I also knew I had to be independent. I had no desire to become reliant on a man. I had to stand on my own two feet before I could get married. And don’t get me wrong, I really wanted to be married. I longed for it! But it was important for the man I dated to be interested in all the parts of me, especially the part of me that wanted to be independent. When I eventually got married at 37, I had already built a foundation for myself, @spanx was already a household name. @jesseitzler wasn’t intimidated by my success, he celebrated it…he liked all the parts of me, especially the independence. 4 kids later… So, sure, there will be men out there who would love to put you in a box or on a shelf. But in the end, it’s the one who celebrates you- all of you! that deserves you. Know the difference.