One of my closest friends has completely upended our relationship by giving a mortifying maid of honor speech at my wedding – and now my husband is demanding that I cut her out of my life completely.
I’ve known my maid of honor since we were kids and even though we’re total opposites, we’ve also been really close. So when it came to choosing a maid of honor, she was my first choice – despite my husband voicing some concern over her drunken antics.
But I trusted her implicitly and made clear to her that when it came to the wedding and the speech, it was important to me that everything be kept as tame as possible so as to avoid any embarrassment in front of my family and my new in-laws.
She promised that she’d keep things ‘PG’ ahead of the day and reassured me that she was going to ‘lean into the emotion rather than the humor’ for her speech.
On the day itself however, she ended up getting pretty tipsy before I’d even made it down the aisle – and I was forced to get one of my other bridesmaids to look after her while I took photos with my husband after the ceremony.
From there, things went from bad to worse, and by the time she stood up to give her speech, it was clear to everyone that she was in no fit state to be addressing a room full of people.
She then proceeded to recap all of my most mortifying sexual encounters, telling my family, friends, and in-laws about some of my most awkward dating moments, including the time I lost my virginity, and a date that ended in disaster when I threw up after eating some bad shrimp.
I was close to tears by the time my husband stood up and prized the microphone out of her hands. I asked one of my friends to take care of her for the rest of the evening and did my best to steer clear of her until after the weekend had wrapped up.
Since the wedding, we’ve had a chance to chat – and while I don’t think I’m anywhere near to forgiving her, I do know that her speech didn’t come from a place of malice and that, in her drunken state, she really did think she was being funny. I believe that one day I will be able to move past this and get our friendship back on track.
However, this whole incident has left my husband so furious that he’s told me he no longer feels comfortable spending time with her, and would prefer for me to cut her out of our lives once and for all. He said that he doesn’t want me to be around someone who clearly doesn’t care for me or have consideration for my feelings, and that he can’t stand the idea of ever speaking to her again.
I feel really torn here – I know exactly why he feels the way that he does, but I don’t want to end a 20-year friendship over one incident, no matter how hurtful it was.
Is there any way I can repair the relationship between them?
Culled from Daily Mail